Wednesday, 28 February 2007

Purpose

This blog aims to celebrate the life of Clare Turkington (nee Gaffney).

Let's see what happens!

A great person who affected the lives of many in the most positive way.

A lover of family, friends and people, travel, music, sports, food and drink, the internet, the good things in life, looking good and having fun!

Friday, 9 February 2007

Photo of Clare in HK - Tania and Steve remember

-----Original Message-----
From: Tania Willis
Sent: Friday, February 09, 2007 11:29 AM
To: rosee; karen swindall; adams; Ann Eagles; stu and anne; Gill; Steve
Paine; Peter Adam
Subject: Photo of Clare in HK

Hi All

I¹m so happy that today I finally found that photo of our last meet up with Clare in HK last Oct. I have been searching high & low for it.

She looked fantastic, so healthy & fit. She had a beautiful glow about her, more so than ever before. And she looked so pretty in that dress. She was bouncing with energy. It was near the end of her trip & she'd done loads of walking round HK- The Peak, various trails above the
mid-levels. Etc... It makes even less sense of her illness.

After this photos was taken, she still had enough energy to insist that we walk the length of the beach. When we got to the river at the end, undeterred, she insisted we pulled out dresses up and wade across the other side not knowing if we were going to go up to our waist in the dark water. We nearly did.

Then we had a good old stroll round the back of Ham Tin, across the marshes to spot buffaloes in the dark & avoid the snakes. She wanted a look at her old flat, which we duly did and then ended up drinking Tsing Tao's out outside Ham Tin shop til midnight. Whereupon John the Dog passed by & the night ended with a spot of wild dancing up at his flat.

All just as it should be

Fond Memories...

Love to you all

Tania


From: Steve Paine
Date: 11-Feb-2007 01:53
Subject: RE: Photo of Clare in HK
To: Tania Willis, rosee, karen swindall, adams, Ann Eagles, stu and anne, Gill, Peter Adam

Dear Tania,

Thanks for that. Reminiscent of the evening many of us got naked and leaped into the water around 3 am after overindulging at the Stoep. Clare told me that if I reported what she looked like bare-assed that I would be hunted down.

Steve

Monday, 5 February 2007

Peter Adam on Clare Turkington

From: Peter Adam
Date: 05-Feb-2007 02:56
Subject: Re: Clare photo album
To: Rosemary Ufot Laurence
Cc: Karen swindall karen swindall, Tania Willis, Stu & Anne

Hi Rosee,

Firstly, I just wanted to say that I was very moved by reading the transcripts of the eulogies at Clare's funeral. Hoa and I are so sorry that we were not able to attend. I was smiling as I thought of Clare's jacket pockets being full of Cheung Sha sand, she would have loved that.

I miss my friend very much and I have been thinking about how to describe my feelings about her untimely death. The only thing I could think of that speaks to me about Clare is a poem by Edna St Vincent Millay called First Fig. It goes like this:

My candle burns at both ends
It will not last the night
But ah my friends and oh my foes
It gives a lovely light

To me, Clare was a bright and powerful light that shone on all of us, sadly, all to briefly.

I found some more photos of Clare from her visit to Hong Kong last year, which I think would be good to put up on her blog.

With love,

Peter & Hoa

Sunday, 4 February 2007

Julie on Clare's fab veggie lasagne

From: Julie Off!cer
Date: 04-Feb-2007 21:29
Subject: Clare's fab veggie lasagne.


To: taniawillis, ridlydidly, dave_powell_hk, kradam, ianlantauhk, jas.bushell, landlordincomeservices, katherineshutt, joaniemagill, kitblack, taffinda, tania_scott, catherine, jacqueline, maggiwig, kittykt88, jumpingjackflash65, zulugirl29 chrisfahy2000, punyaardvark, chris.heath, Ericl81372, me_chelletaylor, traylingcarol, leearma, wickrob, stu_and_anne BRADFORDEM, kslantau, padam, gill, joanwillox, Jackie.Christie, mihacienda, owen.connolly, dave, afuguet, miller.jenni, Nick.Needham,peteoak

Clare has been such a huge influence in my life for so many different reasons, one of which being that she basically taught me how to cook when we were at college. After a few weeks I was confident enough to come up with my own little touches, most of which involved blue food colouring but Clare tucked in despite the presentation and complimented it. She loved my blue rice and tofu.

Her lessons apply to just about everything I cook now, Anyone who was ever lucky enough to sample her cuisine will know that she could rustle something up that was a gastronomic treat. She loved my cannelloni and I marvelled at her lasagne (which I know someone has already mentioned in one of the group emails). While she was in Hong Kong I asked for her the recipe and she wrote it out and sent it to me. I told her last year that I couldn't find it since I'd moved flat and she said she'd like a copy of it too because not only was it fabulous but it was also very funny in a Clare way. I laughed my head off when I got it and told her she should do some more and make a book. I'd have bought it for sure!

Anyway, I found it on Fri in a very unobvious spot, and my two dear friends from college Chris and Sam, who have been staying with me and acting as my crutches since the funeral, agreed it was a fitting tribute to follow her fab recipe and then watch The Piano, one of our all time favourite films that we'd seen together at college. We tried to follow the recipe as closely as possible, listening to Fleetwood Mac (to stimulate) but didn't always manage to sync the wine parts. It was a bit runny too as we used 3/4 of a bottle of red wine. We all agreed it was a great effort though not a patch on hers of course, she'd have been proud I'm sure.

SO… because I want as many people to as possible to share and enjoy some of the wonders of Clare, here is the recipe in true Clare fashion. Quirky, fun, informative and fabulous. Read, enjoy and cook, eat and weep in pleasure and in her memory. As we did. (i heartily recommend as much red wine as possible (though white is OK also) followed by lots and lots and lots of gin. (repeat as necessary)

Julie.

Clare's Vegetable Lasagna Recipe

From: Clare Turkington
Date: Fri, Aug 6, 1999, 4:31 am
To: “Julie Oakley” (E-mail)”
Subject: Clare’s Homemade Lasagne…fa la laaaaa

Ingredients (for the lasagne sauce)
(Amount will vary depending on the size of your dish – the amounts I’m quoting are very rough for about 4 people)

*1 x average size onion
*2 x cloves of garlic
*1 bottle of red wine (white is OK also)
*some oil
*Lasagne pasta sheets


(All the veg I buy is dependant on what looks nice in the supermarket. At the moment broccoli is nice so I’ve used that for the past few weeks. I normally buy about 3 different types of veg.)

*mushrooms (maybe 3/4 pack)
*broccoli (average clump which you buy in supermarket)
*eggplant or aubergine (one piece) or
*zucchini or whatever
*Ready made Pasta tomato sauce (eg Paul Newman’s), or Tin Tomatoes it’s up to you (if you use the tin toms you’ll have to put all your own herbs n stuff in)
*Herbs (like mixed Italian herbs, bay leaf, basil, oregano etc)

*Maybe 1/2 pound of cheddar cheese, and 1/2 pound of mozzarella-both sliced.


Ingredients (for the cheese sauce) topping)

*Tablespoon of butter
*Milk
*Flour (about another tablespoon)
*Pinch of salt
*Use a few slices of the sliced cheddar cheese from above


1) Pour yourself a glass of wine and put some music on which stimulates you in the background.
2) Preheat the oven (according to the temperature stipulated on the lasagne sheet box)
3) Chop the onion and garlic
4) Heat some oil in the pan – not much, just enough to coat the bottom. You don’t need to use a lot at all.
5) Gently sauté the onions and garlic in the pan until soft and golden.
6) While this is happening you can be chopping the veg (if you use broccoli, make sure to shop small otherwise it’ll make layering messy)
7) Add the chopped veg to a pan with the onions and garlic. Do not have heat on too high as you don’t want to burn it. Just stir quite briskly to mingle the flavours. You don’t have to cook it, as that will take place when you’re baking it, I just think it’s nice for the garlic and onion to flavour the veg. That should take about 5 minutes.
8) a) Add the pasta sauce or,
8) b) Add the tin tomatoes, and add herbs to your liking to flavour (a couple of pinches), maybe add a vegetable stock cube to give it some zzzzip!
9) Add some wine (amount optional – you don’t want the sauce to be too runny, it depends on how thick your sauce was to start off with)
10) Add a bay leaf, cover and simmer for about 10-15 minutes (just to get the flavours mingling). Stir occasionally.

Help yourself to another glass of wine.

1) Heat the butter in another pan - slowly, as it burns easily. (keep heat low)
2) Once melted, add a tablespoon of flour, and stir. It should look like yellow paste. Maybe a good idea to take off the heat for a minute at this point so it doesn’t burn.
3) Add a bit of milk, and stir and return to the heat. Keep stirring constantly. If you add too much milk at this stage it will curdle. Keep on stirring and adding bits of milk. The mixture should keep thickening and eventually you should end up with a sauce like consistency. Break up some cheese and melt it in. if it’s too runny, add some more cheese. You will know what it is ready.
4) Turn off heat.

Help yourself to another glass of wine.

1) Get the dish you aim to put the lasagne in.
2) Put half the tomatoes and vegetable sauce in the bottom (or so it’s about 2cm high), put some slices of mozzarella on the top, put the pasta sheets on top, put veg sauce on (about 2cm), put cheese on, put pasta layers etc.
3) I normally have 2 layers of sauce and 2 layers pasta.
You should end up with pasta on top.
4) Get the white sauce and pour over the top.
5) Sprinkle with some black pepper.6) Put in the middle of oven for about an hour or so (depending on the instructions on the lasagne box).

Wednesday, 31 January 2007

Eric on Clare Turkington

From: Eric
Date: Wed, 31 Jan 2007 07:51:19 -0800
To: Julie
Subject: RE:

Excellent job on the playlist.

I started crying when I saw you included "How You Remind Me" by Nickelback. That was a favorite of mine and Clare's, and just reflecting on the melody brought back a flood of memories of us singing it and banging out heads while we were in London (The Intrepid Fox especially) for my Honeymoon and in New Orleans for Mardi Gras. I will never hear that song again without thinking of Clare.

Its a beautiful photo too. It really captures how sweet and wonderful of a person she was. She truly was perfect - not a mean bone in her. This is so tragic, Julie, and its cruel that a person who loved long journeys was robbed of a long life journey. Life is so unfair.

XXXOXOXOXOXOXOXXXXXOOO

Eric

Tuesday, 30 January 2007

Tania on Clare photo album

From: Tania Willis
Date: 30-Jan-2007 08:36
Subject: Clare photo album
To: Joan , adams, Stuart Hellier, Peter Adam, rosee, Gill, Nigel Wightman, karen swindall

Hi All

If anyone has any photos of Clare during her time in Hong Kong. Would you send me them (or scan & send)?

Karen had the idea of putting a photo album together of Clare in Hong Kong for her Mum. Below the photo or with the photo somehow, we could write a small piece about Clare & how we met her etc.... so her mum can piece together those years Clare spent here & who her friends were etc.

Thanks


Tania

Sunday, 28 January 2007

Julie on Clare's Blog Photo

From: Julie Off!cer
Date: 28-Jan-2007 23:39
Subject: Re: dave powell
To: ridlydidly
Cc: stu_and_anne, kittykt88

you used the pic i sent you yesterday! it was one of the few she had with her hair down, she'd just been to the hairdressers and had it straightened and loved it but was still trying to tuck it behind her ears. We were in Ben crouch's and it was her birthday. I think it was 05. God I miss her.

I have a lot to contribute but right now I'm struggling with just writing the emails to everyone. I love everyone's stories. Most of which I have already heard. I'm so glad I met Anne all but briefly (tho stuart would think it was not brief enough as they were very late going back to their
place) That too was in Ben C's.

One of the things i want to send you is what i wrote for a dating website called mysinglefriend.com. Clare didn't edit what i wrote though we agreed later that the website was ?**? as because everyone was put on by their friend, no one bothered to look for anyone, just waited to be contacted! I also asked for the impossible as I was too honest about Clare's ideal man. It was just a summary but was still a few paragraphs. You couldn't sum her up in less."

"I've had the worst day so far, bawling and sobbing wise.

Saturday, 27 January 2007

The Blog Suggestion

From : Rosemary Ufot Laurence To: Julie, Tania, Peter, Karen, Joan, adams, Gill, Stuart
Date : 27-Jan (2 days ago) 10:08

Hi All

I'm going to start a blog for Clare to capture all the photos and any stories about her. She used to have a blog so if anyone has the address please let me know and I'll link it.




I shall also link the race for life link.

Anyone want to include anything on it let me know or send me a link to things she was interested in. I'm guessing this will be a life long project but one I shall be very interested in maintaining.

I went to Westminster Cathedral on Thursday after work and as it happened it was a lovely service. They were celebrating the conversion of St Paul and were dressed in white complete with a full choir.

The last time I saw her was at a carol service just before Christmas, in which someone from her work was involved in. There was a nativity and the best of Christmas Carols followed by mulled wine and chat after and we had such a lovely magical evening and promised to try and make it a date every year for as long as we were working alongside each other in Victoria.

Following that I made my way to Bracknell where Stuart met me from Wokingham. During and after a splendid feast prepared by Stuart and drinks supplied by Anne we set about playing music and reminiscing til 3 in the morning and especially playing the first Craig David album which reminded us all of an occasion on a lovely summer day, out of the junk with Anne and Stuart, Clare and some of their friends, chilling, smiling and chatting and feeling generally content with life as this album blasted the airwaves, offending no-one. Clare loved that, and the album thereafter as it always reminded us of this day.

From time to time, happy memories crop up, Clare laughing until she simply couldn't speak with her eyes twinkling. She was always up for a good time and the odd glass of wine or coffee.

We've been blessed to have met Clare and to have had her in our lives. She could always assist with an issue by being the objective person and she was always so good at helping others, sometimes at the expense of herself. Many a time she could boost me with one of her favourite phrases....."I think you're simply amazing!" How open and honest she was and never afraid to hide behind decorum and politeness. When I was looking for my flat, I didn't have a clue about the steps to take. She insisted I spent the w/e with her where she pulled out her incredible filing system and went through everything that need to be done or considered and filled me the confidence to know that with friends like Clare, I too could succeed!

I loved her sense of family as well as her sense of friends, and feel that whilst I only met Anne and Sid on a couple of occasions that I also knew them quite well, through the stories she used to recount.

She loved to travel and went to so many places. Her visit to Nepal was to follow a time of extreme life change which she took on the chin, embraced and moved on. How brave was she?

She loved meeting people and ensuring that everyone had a good time. Indeed the first time I met her she was entertaing a group of some 10 or so women at her home in Lower Cheung Sha and her lasagne (vegetable) was amazing!

She inducted me to the likes of Linkin' Park, with her friend Julie and although they were both excited to be going, it was I who enjoyed the concert more, as after a heavy day of rugby business, they both struggled to stay a wake even to the sound of heavy rock! How many times did Clare go to concerts with the intention of appreciating one of her musically talented heroes, to perhaps miss the first few songs, to spend time with friends enjoying the here and now!

When I returned to London in 2003, she moved round the corner from where I lived at the time in Peckham. On the cuff we decided to have a Christmas celebration at my house, all joining in to cook Christmas dinner, eating and drinking loads, singing at the top of our lungs without a care in the world. Forget festive season and seasonal greetings! We had grown up with Christmas and we wanted to celebrate it and we did! Whilst I fell asleep on the sofa, Clare kept going until 3 in the morning! I didn't see her again until after Christmas although we spoke to each other before. Photos here Christmas Photos What a Blast!


These are just some of the things that are going through my head. That I am thinking about and that I am glad I have experienced with her. Like the time she took me to the Intrepid Fox (hardcore rock pub in Soho which has since shut down) where everyone was dressed in black save the woman who turned up in the pastel colours and felt a little like a fish out of water. Didn't matter to our Clare. Appearances....puh! It was all about the people! There are tons of things and as I think about them I hope to note them down for posterity.

Thanks Tania, Peter for your memories of Clare. She is a peace now and we all have that to be thankful for.

Adios amigos

Rosee

Friday, 26 January 2007

Clare's Cheung Sha Shrine

From : Peter Adam
To : NGUYEN, Tania, Karen, Joan, adams, Gill, Stuart, me
Date : 26-Jan (3 days ago) 09:08

Hi all,

I placed a card on Tania's shrine. I thought it was appropriate..